Have you ever promised your child that you would do something with them the next day or the upcoming weekend. Maybe it wasn’t a promise, just something you said. Did you say it to sush your child? Did you say it to just say it?
Do your children believe you anymore when you promise something to them?
I have to admit, I’ve been guilty of this before. And it wasn’t that I was trying to quiet my kid or put him or her off. I really intended to do that promise, to do that activity. But…
I either forgot or was just too tired. I asked them if we could do it another day. Did that day ever come? Most likely not.
After some time of thinking about this little bad habit I was getting myself into, I started to think about my son. About how he felt when I let him down.
My son has a very sensitive heart. He never wants to disappoint anyone and rarely reminds you of something you promised, because he doesn’t want to bother you.
This really sank down into my spirit. How I was hurting his feelings, hurting the trust he had with me.
He didn’t say it, but I’m sure he was disappointed in me. Ouch.
I now try to make every effort that if I promise something, that one, I can actually follow through with it and two, actually do it.
Even when I’m tired or I just don’t feel like it.
I have come to terms with the fact that I will live!
His confidence and self image depends on it. He needs to be able to trust people, especially his parents.
As I’m writing this, my son is preparing for our bike ride that I promised him yesterday to do today. I almost forgot! I’m glad I didn’t
I cherish these moments. We always have so much fun.
Not only our children, but others need to know that our words mean something. They need to know that we’re accountable. Can trust us.
If you tell someone you’re going to do something, then you should do everything in your power to hold true to that. And then be mindful in the future of agreeing to something you just can’t follow through on.
You may be one of those type of people that has a hard time saying “no” to anything that someone asks you to do. You have to have boundaries for yourself and your life so you don’t overwhelm yourself and disappoint others.
There is a great book on this subject, guess what it’s called? Boundaries! If you are in the habit of being a “yes” person, I highly recommend this book. You won’t be disappointed.