Don’t get too close to me. You might figure me out. You might not like me. You might not want to be my friend if you really knew all of my flaws. Can you relate? Are you like that? Do you have the Great Wall of China up before you even introduce yourself to someone new? I did.
Sure, most of us girls have good reason to have that wall up. Somehow, it’s seems like we’ve been dealt the bad had in the gender roles. Why is it that all girls seem to have it in for each other? We have to feel that we’re better than she is and therefore, we must show our “perfect” side only! We tend to blab other’s personal secret’s and flaws to anyone that will listen. You know. Gossip!Gossip kills a friendship faster than you can blink. #friendship Click To Tweet
I know I have had a few occasions when I felt that I would never ever have another girlfriend again. I would never let anyone know who I really am for fear that they would use that against me.
But, is that really a healthy way to live? Acting superficial and never getting close to anyone? That really can lead to a lonely existence, and a life unfulfilled.
Trusting others is definitely a hard thing to do. It takes so much work, patience, trust and self-sacrifice. Is it worth it? I think so…now.
How To Take The Wall Down
I decided long ago that I wasn’t going to have that wall up anymore. I was going to trust others until proven un-trustworthy. I was going to be transparent.
Is transparency always been a good thing? NO. But I have nothing to hide. If someone doesn’t like me for who I am, faults and all. Then that’s ok. If someone that I decided to trust goes and talks behind my back, then that’s ok. I already decided to be transparent, so it doesn’t bother me (much) anymore.
I love having friends. I love trusting people. I just love!
Making this change to trust instead of avoid people has made my life more fulfilled and enjoyable.
Deciding to like people right away also helps me to find new friends that I wouldn’t have had before.
Making this switch in attitude also meant that when friends shared with me the down-and-dirty about them, that it was always to stay with me.
How To Ruin a Friendship
Many years ago, I had a friend tell me something, I went and blabbed it in the lunch room at work. Guess what? Without me knowing it, she had entered the lunch room and was right behind me! Eeks!! Shame on me. I had never felt so bad before. I deserved everything she said to me, plus more! She eventually forgave me, but I can tell you, she never shared anything with me again. We were just superficial, surface, friends after that.
Big-time lesson learned there! Never again.
Step Out and Trust Someone
Go ahead and take a step out. Trust someone. Be someone to trust. There are a sea of friends out there that need you, and that you need. God created us all different, for so many reasons. Embrace each other’s differences and love, serve and be there for each other.
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