Can You Have A Transformed Attitude For The Holidays?

A transformed attitude? Who needs that. Everyone’s attitude is just fine. Everyone is so kind to each other, respectful and ready to serve others at a moments notice **insert sarcastic tone**.

At this time of the year it’s especially easy to lose our tempers and get very lost in the busyness of the season. We’re on a mission and we don’t have time to worry about having a good attitude. Just get out of my way. I don’t have time to think about anything else but what I need. Ok. Maybe that’s not you. But… That has been me, way more times than I will admit (those parking lots just set me off, and there goes my attitude). And maybe it’s more me because I have a strong personality and almost always, I’m on a mission.

Before we get any further into the season, it’s a great time to step back, think about what your goals and purpose for the holidays will be. Is it just to host that perfect Thanksgiving dinner or to find the one perfect Christmas gift that your children have been begging for? Don’t feel guilty if those are your goals, that is many of our goals each year. Or maybe it’s to find that perfect New Years cocktail dress or just the right heels.

I challenge you this year to have a different goal.

A different purpose and mission. One that comes before the perfectly decorated holiday table or the Christmas presents that color coordinate with your Christmas Tree. This season’s goal is one that will fuel happiness in you and those around you. And it won’t even matter if you get that perfect gift or cook the turkey just right. People will remember you and your attitude!

The goal? Focus on Respect, Gentleness and Servanthood first and foremost before any activity you head out to do this holiday season. And not only before you head out, but in your home too.

[content_box type=”with-header” title=”1. RESPECT: Esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability; To hold in esteem or honor; To show regard or consideration for; To refrain from intruding upon or interfering with” text_color=”dark” color=”default”]

HOW TO: Listen harder, be considerate of other’s feelings and faults (remember, none of us is perfect), Keep your promises. Be on time! Have manners (Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, Thank you, No Thank you, excuse me, hold the door open for others, look out for the elderly).
[/content_box] [content_box type=”with-header” title=”2. GENTLENESS: The value and quality of one’s character; To be that of kindness, consideration and amiability; Not severe, rough, or violent; mild: It is the humble and meek attitude of wanting to help other people instead of wanting to be superior to them.” text_color=”dark” color=”default”] HOW TO: Respond  and answer gently. Don’t be pushy, but instead be patient (in lines, crowded stores and crazy parking lots). Don’t show anger, breathe to relax and calm down. Will the situation be better with or without anger? Learn more about gentleness.
[/content_box] [content_box type=”with-header” title=”3. SERVANTHOOD – simply, one that serves others” text_color=”dark” color=”default”] HOW TO: Think of others first. What do they need? Show empathy and concern for others. Volunteer. So many people and organizations need help this time of year and really value and appreciate any help they can get. Make your neighbors that don’t have family something special for the holidays. Shovel the driveways of the neighbors around you (great for kids to do without expecting money). Help someone finish a project. Learn more how to teach your children servanthood.
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Transforming your attitude for people in any social situation (even at home) will clearly set you apart from the rest of society. And that’s a good thing. Before you head out that door to go shopping and battle the parking lots, remember, Respect, Gentleness and Servanthood. Not only will others appreciate you and enjoy your company, but the benefit is even greater to you. Peace and a feeling of accomplishing something special that not everyone else is willing to do.