You got a glimpse that life was going to change. That everything you know, is going to go through an adjustment. You’re not sure how, but you have that feeling. The feeling that the comfiness you’ve had for a few years is about to get a little…un-comfy.
Then it hits. A job loss. A death in the family. A move across the country. Losing your house. Having no money. Maybe it’s just one of those things, maybe it’s all.
Can you relate?
Times like these can be scary. They can feel out-of-control. You start to feel unsure about yourself.
You start to feel lost and worried about the future.
Times like these.. are the times to Trust Him! And no, I’m not talking about God, although you should have great trust in Him.
I’m talking about your husband…that him!
God gave you that man for so many reasons. One of those was to bare burdens that we shouldn’t have to. Your husband is there to be your strong shoulder to lean on. No, he may not be the gushy-cry-his-eyes-out over the latest chic-flick, but he is able to lead and guide you. And fight the forces against you both, if you stand behind him…for him.
If you let him!
If you can only trust him!
How Do You Trust Him?
Trust. That can be a hard thing at times, or all the time. I find that trusting others can be more of challenge for women that like, I mean, NEED, to be in control…of everything. I’m one of these types of women. I confess. I like control. I need control.
However, I like when I let my guard down and trust my husband to take care of me. To take care of the situation or challenge at hand. It feels good and right.
Recently, I have learned that he is really good at it too, taking care of me! He may not do everything that I would do or HOW I would do it, but he is capable and quite frankly, good at handling hard situations.
Putting my trust in him, letting him make decisions that he thinks best for our family, took pressure off of me. And that’s a good thing.
I feel honored that God placed someone so special in my life that is willing to be the first in the line-of-attack to take care of me and block the bullets from hitting me.
I can bet your husband is willing to be that man too.
If you let him.
If you can trust him.
No person can make all the right decisions and choices every time. Everyone makes mistakes. So grant him that leeway of being human. Give him a chance.
He’s been built to handle hard times. He’s made to protect you and provide for you. He NEEDS you to trust him. He wants YOU to be able to trust HIM.
If you have a hard time at the thought of trusting him completely. Start off small. Trust him with something that doesn’t feel like it’s a life-changing kind-of decision. If he messes up, try again. Trust him again with something small. Keep doing it until you can let go of control and actually let yourself trust his judgement and decision-making. Let him do it his way and not the way you think it should be done.
What if He Lost Your Trust?
What if he has failed you too many times? Then trust in God that He knows what He’s doing. Trust that God has helped you make the right choice in a husband that can take care of you. In 1 John 5:14, it tells us, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us,” ask God to help you trust your husband. To be able to believe him and believe in him.
Only from experience can I tell you that it is worth the letting-down-of-your-guard to trust your husband to take care of you. It is worth those precious moments that he stands up taller and is proud that you know that he is, in-fact, able to protect you.
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