How often do you feel like you’re the only “normal” person? I think this is a question many of us ask ourselves often. We ask this question with just about everyone around us; our spouse, parents, friends, children, relatives and so on. Why do we think we are the ones that are so normal? What makes us more normal than another person? Maybe we’re not normal.
What is your definition of normal? Is it something like this: someone that acts just like me, thinks like me, does what I do, makes the same logical and smart decisions that I do, has the same common interests and the list can go on and on.
According to Dictionary.com, normal means:
Conforming to the standard or the common type. But who’s standard or common type? Why does it have to be my standard or common type?
The person sitting next to you is normal too. They just have different standards and their type of common is going to be different than yours. They look different, dress different, talk different. Others around you do the same things you do, they just execute them in a different way.
Oh, wait a minute. Did you catch that word in that last paragraph that makes someone else not the same as you? DIFFERENT. They are different! That is why they aren’t like us. Each and everyone of us was created unique and different!
Can we accept that it is ok for others to be different?
Today, we are struggling as humans to accept each other. You hear everyday on the news how someone was bullied, a hate crime happened or there was a suicide. What is so bad about someone being different and not like you? Why do some have to harm others they don’t accept?
When did different become a bad thing?
In order to accept others, we have to get over the fact that others are never going to be like us. Others look different and act different. Some people think different and come to the same conclusion as you, but in a different way.
For example, my husband and I usually have very different directions and ways to get to the exact same location. Both ways will get us to there in basically the same amount of time. We have learned to accept that we like to go different ways and neither way is wrong. It’s just our individual preferences. I like a direct route, no matter how many lights and traffic there is. My husband loves to map out the best possible route based on the time of week, day and hour. He studies and researches almost EVERYTHING! (which drives me bonkers sometimes, but has been very useful too).
We have learned to live with our differences, however, it is still something we have to work at everyday. Relationship building doesn’t ever stop. There will always be work, adjustments and a lot of the word “sorry”.
Accepting others for who they are, what they do, how they look may take work too. So be gracious with others, if it’s not life-threatening, let the other person be their normal for a change.
5 Steps to Accept Others
- Accept the way you are.
- Accept that others don’t think like you.
- Let others lead.
- Don’t judge their choice.
- Be gracious and allow mistakes of yourself and others.
Question: When was the last time you let your spouse be right?
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